So you’re preparing to be a birth partner: You’ve taken the childbirth class, read the books, checked the blogs… and still feel super nervous. As doulas and childbirth educators, we’re here to tell you that that’s normal!
The truth is, you can’t predict exactly what your partner will need in labor. But our birth partner education always comes down to preparing your mindset. Here are the two things we share in our classes that will always matter when birth partners prepare for birth:
1) Presence
Be there. Really there.
What does this look like? Hold their hand, breathe with them, and let your body communicate calm and steadiness.
As humans, our mirror neurons tune into those around us. Therefore your closeness matters more than you think. In birth, we’ve seen that three feet away can feel like a mile.
Our advice? Get close. Ground yourself. Steady your breath so your partner can feel your support through each surge.
2) Observation
This is your opportunity to attune to their cues. Watch, listen, notice.
What does this look like? Ask yourself these questions:
How did they cope through that contraction?
Are they holding tension?
Are they Breathing or bracing?
If you touch their shoulders and they soften…amazing, you’re in! If you see them tense, offer your steady breath and presence instead of instructions.
Birth support is less about doing and more about being.
Stay present. Keep observing. That’s how you meet your partner exactly where they are.
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